Well they say time flies when you’re having fun! Where an earth have the last 14 weeks gone?
How insane is this full term baby malarkey?!? We have a 14 week old baby that is already trying to roll over, has a little tooth poking through and has had her first taste of Mamma’s home cooking! Time is rushing by and I’m terrified I’m going to blink and she’s going to be all grown up.
I’ve been thinking this last week about how fortunate we are to have our baby. This time around we had the backing of some fantastic specialist doctors who went above and beyond to get our baby here. I really want to talk about the importance of specialist care for ladies with an incompetent cervix.
It was raised in the Incompetent Cervix UK Support Group that a lady had been refused a stitch despite desperately needing one.
How is this possible in this day and age? How can a doctor refuse potentially life saving treatment?
One of my wonderful Doctors, Nigel Simpson made a very valid point, “It is often these doctors that are not involved in Preterm Prevention Pregnancy Care.” I don’t think it’s that they don’t care, I believe that they just dont have the knowledge or understanding required to treat us appropriately.
Because of this, It is imperative that we seek the care we need. We have to fight for the care required to maintain a pregnancy. Will it be easy? Probably not. Its going to require days off, travel, unknown hospitals and more. My journey to deliver our Rainbow safely was a nightmare! Leeds, London, Burnley, they all knew me well. It was tough but so worth it!
My ask of you is this, talk about your condition. Tell people of the heart ache you’ve had to endure to get here. Keep raising awareness. You never know who you might help.
I have learnt the following along the way. . .
- Call your local consultants secretary. Ask for a one to one meeting. This can be done pre or post conception. It may well be that they are ready and willing to help and support you.
- If they are ill equipped to deal with you or dismissive of your concerns you must seek specialist care! Speak to your Gp, ask for a referal. 9 times out of 10 they will gladly assist you.
- There are specialists based in London, Leeds, Liverpool and Birmingham. All are easily accessible and If you send a simple email they will respond with instructions on how to proceed. Feel free to contact me for their email addresses
- Finally, stay positive and focused. Help is out there.
Dont be afraid to seek the care you deserve. The specialists will help you understand the why’s and offer preventative treatment.
As my wonderful doctor stated on twitter “thankfully groups like the Incompete Cervix UK Support Group are empowering and educating women so they can seek specialist care”
Keep talking, keep empowering, keep educating. You may end up being the reason someone gets their Rainbow!